I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.
- Albert Ellis
Love, Sex, Back, Cases
I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition.
- Albert Ellis
Think, Right, I Think, Human Condition
I hope to die in the saddle seat.
- Albert Ellis
Death, Die, Seat, Saddle
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.
- Albert Ellis
Future, Destiny, Which, Blame
I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.
- Albert Ellis
Think, I Think, Disturbance, Occurs
I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other, more directive forms of therapy, so I was trained in it and practiced it.
- Albert Ellis
Thought, Other, Trained, Foolishly
We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.
- Albert Ellis
Past, Teach, Upset, Behaving
People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware.
- Albert Ellis
Thoughts, Motives, Which, Unaware
I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.
- Albert Ellis
Listening, Criticizing, Six, Psychoanalysis
Freud had a gene for inefficiency, and I think I have a gene for efficiency.
- Albert Ellis
Think, I Think, Inefficiency, Freud
Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.
- Albert Ellis
Been, Very, Refused, Analyst
People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.
- Albert Ellis
Damn, Bothering, Insights, Hardly
People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.
- Albert Ellis
Dating, Other, Rationally, Prolonged
By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.
- Albert Ellis
Think, Very, Which, Unpopular
Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.
- Albert Ellis
Over, Given, Received, Faced
Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.
- Albert Ellis
Love, Everybody, Traits, Lovable
There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.
- Albert Ellis
Women, Evidence, Whatsoever, Rational
Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.
- Albert Ellis
World, Real World, Getting, Rational
I started to call myself a rational therapist in 1955; later I used the term rational emotive. Now I call myself a rational emotive behavior therapist.
- Albert Ellis
Myself, Started, Emotive, Rational
The art of love is largely the art of persistence.
- Albert Ellis
Love, Art, Largely, Love Is
Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
- Albert Ellis
Woman, Self-Esteem, Known, Conditional
As a result of my philosophy, I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.
- Albert Ellis
Doing, Upset, Knock, Hated
Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.
- Albert Ellis
Abuse, Still, Though, Sexually
I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.
- Albert Ellis
Like, Going, Very, Gospel
For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.
- Albert Ellis
Childish, Again, Dependency, Essentially
I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
- Albert Ellis
People, Loves, Them, Therapist
In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.
- Albert Ellis
Insurance, Old, Belong, Paid
You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it.
- Albert Ellis
Given, Constructed, Largely, Depression
There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.
- Albert Ellis
Brainy, Treat, Back, Easy
If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.
- Albert Ellis
Other, Academic, Been, Experiments
If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.
- Albert Ellis
Work, Something, Means, Unrealistic
I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public.
- Albert Ellis
Young, Over, Young Women, Eclectic
People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.
- Albert Ellis
People, Upset, Get, Contribute
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